So last night we started the festive season off with a movie night and in good old Christmas tradition we watched Love Actually. It’s one my favourites, it’s probably everyone’s favourite because it’s the guaranteed to get you in the festive mood. I’m also a massive Hugh Grant fan. However this time when I watched it someone had changed. The part where Emma Thompson’s character; Karen finds out her husband bought his PA a gold necklace literally broke my heart. It suddenly occurred to me that Karen probably spent years building a family, bringing up two kids (it feels different now I’m a Mum) and holding the fort down while her husband ran a successful business, who then goes and messes it all up with a bloody gold necklace!! I nearly cried, it made me so sad. But it got me thinking.
How do you make a marriage work? How do you make it to your 20th wedding anniversary let alone your 50th? My parents divorced when I was 6, but it wasn’t until I was old enough to understand that they were never right for each other, perhaps when they were too young, but either way they would of never lasted with or without my sister or I. They both share a passion for music, rock and rock legends and travel, and of course us (my sister and I) but that’s about it. Luckily my dad remarried my Step Mum, so I got an extra Mum and a little brother. I consider myself lucky. I never knew that having a baby would be so hard at times, and I can’t imagine what I’d do without Nathan or my support network aka Rupa, friends and family. It got me thinking about single Mums. My Mum brought us up with the help of our Grandparents but it’s hard, and with two kids I can’t imagine how she got through it alone. Anyway, the reason I’m babbling on is because it got me thinking about my vows, and why Nathan and I got married. A wedding isn’t just a gorgeous event for your friends and a family to attend, it’s a celebration of your love and marks the start of a wonderful journey called marriage.
So for all of you getting married soon, I wish you all the best. It’s amazing, it takes work but it’s amazing.
I’ll leave you with this quote…
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
– Mignon McLaughlin